quick fuckin doodle of everything that pisses me off about tumblr and the number one reason i wanna go on hiatus
hi guys! this is a comic i made for a final in my comics in literature class. we had to do a research paper on a topic we’d discussed in class and then accompany it with a comic with a relevant subject. my paper was about hyper-sexualization of women in comic books, but i decided to broaden it out here as well as personalize it and make myself the subject and discuss something i’ve been subjected to in the convention circuit and on the internet as well as thousands of other women, as well as give a cue to thought about how the comic book industry as well as the video game industry and even just media in general (all of which are male dominated) push such ridiculous pressures onto girls and women.
also, it feels kind of silly to have to add this since i hope it’s obvious, but i am very aware that there are men that don’t subscribe to this attitude, and am incredibly grateful that these issues are brought to light to people other than the ones that are subjected to it.
anyway haha i have literally been staring at this for 9 hours i don’t even know which direction is up anymore. thanks for reading!!!
SO MUCH THIS. It reminds me of one time when I a couple of men in a line with me at a con thought it was a complement to me to tell me how good my Harley was, ‘so much better and suit her more than that fat one we’ve seen about’. There was a larger Harley around which I had seen before at the con and had been in awe of, she was so beautiful, flawless and made a wonderful Harley. These group of men though just because she was bigger, she wasn’t a good Harley and thought it was okay to make fun of her and that it was a complement to me to comment on her negatively to try and say mine was good. It is the worst kind of insult you can give me, you will never give me positivity and confidence by bringing someone else down.
“THESE TWO ARE CANON SHIP IT YOU HOMOPHOBE”
I am a gay male. Likely I’m one of the oldest users on tumblr. I’m 74. Yes, young readers seventy four. I have been with my partner Carl for 47 years now.
Please know that while we both know technology very well, we are also trying very hard to remember, and use correctly, the new dialogue that has grown. So, if any words appear here that are not considered correct…it is not because I refuse to use them. It’s because I haven’t heard them. Or seen them. Or am emotional enough while writing this that I simply use “old fart” words.
We have both been through it all. The hiding because it was illegal, the fear and pain of the loss of fifteen different friends and acquaintances from A.I.D.S. The times when you literally (not virtually) could not walk the streets without meeting someone that had a sign, or a pamphlet that declared A.I.D.S was God’s way of “ridding the earth” of homosexuality. We lived through the burning of homes, and clubs, and bars. We lived through the beating deaths. I lived through a beating that nearly lost me my right eye and left me completely deaf in the right ear. Carl lost several jobs because “he must be…” or “we know.” We lived through hatred that was terrifying and sickening and unimaginable to some today.
The hatred is still there. The overt and the subtle. Things are, however better (it’s a terrible word, I know). Carl and I married. We debated making it very public, but decided on a personal ceremony. The photos are filled with our friends who are 90 and…well…have a few pages stuck together, to new friends who are young enough to be our grandchildren.
Carl and I are in a variety of fandoms. Yes, we are trekkies-we bought our first color television just for Star Trek. Now Carl loves Supernatural (and thinks it’s gone so far down the crapper that they’ve actually made Naomi an Alien). I like Teen Wolf and we both watch Sherlock.
The opening statement made by the anon is so, so true. And to us, it is a new form of hatred. I read fanfic and write it. Carl and I both enjoy all forms of fanworks.
Here’s the kicker… Neither of us is a Sherlock/John shipper. We both see Sherlock and John as two men who have a very unique and incredibly strong friendship. Here’s the irony: I have been called a homophobe for not shipping Sherlock and John. I received hate messages in my (now deleted) Sherlock blog when I answered ‘do you ship Johnlock?’ with the single word ‘no’. It was oddly amusing: “Homophobe”, “die cis scum!”, “go kill yourself”, “you must be a lonely, fat, hag”.
When straight people go out of their way to “prove” that John and Sherlock (and other fandom characters) are gay, and do so with the cry of “if you don’t ship it, you hate gays!” It is an ironic form of hatred and, in a way, homophobia: These straight people are so determined to show that they aren’t homophobic, that they fail to see how damaging their fetishization and “look at how accepting I am!” is. That, queers can actually see a friendship between John and Sherlock (and any other fandom characters). That seeing a friendship, and not shipping John and Sherlock is simply that… Seeing a friendship.
When you demand, dear straight people, that others ship Johnlock, and demand that if you don’t “ship” you are homophobic… You are the one that is showing intolerance and hate: Your quest to prove that you’re on “our side” only proves your ignorance, your desperation to been seen as an ally, and the fact that you don’t actually see queer issues, or respect those that are queer.
You only want to see two guys have hot (or painfully bad, and painfu,l considering the how…painfully it is written the majority of the time) sex.
Read it; learn things.
I want to shake OPs hand for sharing that. Honestly, I think he and I could have a few beers and get along quite well. Kids today really don’t have any idea of some of their elders have been through. Not just their parents and grandparents, but people in their community. People they see every day and have no idea what they have been through.
I really want to tell these kids who’re calling people homophobic for not shipping certain things… read about queer history. Really learn about it beofore you say stupid shit like this. Before you say stupid shit that can hurt real actual people. The people who see the things you say on the internet are not just your peers. they are not just the people in your echo chamber of stupid ideas in fandom.
I have so much more I want to say about this post but I am not feeling well.
Tropes Vs. Women in Video Games
Nine months after her successful Kickstarter campaign, Anita Sarkeesian unveils the much anticipated pilot episode of the Tropes Vs. Women in Video Games series, which examines how video games often portray female characters as someone who needs to be rescued.
Hey! Listen! Watch this video, okay?
Excuse the sloppiness. I feel like people are more inclined to read things when they’re a picture, so I made this to give a really BRIEF and SHALLOW explanation of why “reverse sexism” is a bullshit way of describing what’s actually happening: patriarchy backfiring against men. There is a lot more to it than just this, though.
Source for women in advertising: http://www.guardian.co.uk/media/2011/jan/20/ipa-women-in-advertising
Edit: sorry it’s so small, click for big version
it’s amazing how literally no one seems to get this
This is relevant.
Adam Hills destroys Joan Rivers for her Adele comments.
Umm idk if anyone knows this of not but Joan rivers is a comedian this is what she does she makes jokes and makes fun of people it’s what she gets paid to do if you take offense to a comedian then that’s on you but don’t bash them for literally doing their job
…. there’s a difference between being comical and being a bitch.
to talk about adele’s weight like that isn’t funny, it’s disrespectful. and that “joke” doesn’t just affect adele. it affects the females that are the same stature as her.
i’m tired of jokes being shit that’s disrespectful as fuck.
yeah being a comedian doesn’t mean that you can just say whatever you want it means you can make good jokes and these jokes just straight up weren’t good
if you went to a restaurant and the food was really shitty, would you be upset or would you shrug it off and say “that’s what the chef gets paid to do”
you would probably be upset because yes, it is their job, and that’s exactly why they should do it well
Saying “Hahaha fat people am I right? Nyuk nyuk nyuk,” isn’t really comedy. It isn’t even edgy or pushing any envelopes. It’s nothing new or creative. It’s so ordinary, so run-of-the-mill to say things like this. It’s lazy. It’s lazy. If Joan Rivers is a comedian, she’s gotta do more than literally just point out someone is fat. That’s… that’s not comedy. Like, even beyond being pissed at yet another piece of fat hate, even besides it being disrespectful not only to Adele but other people who share her body type, I’m just pissed off that people who are professionals at making jokes can’t be bothered to say something different from what an average middle schooler writes on a bathroom stall. She’s not doing her job. Fuck her.
Fucking hell, Joan.
I hate it when people I otherwise really respect and enjoy make really shitty comments like that. >:(